Fear and How it Affects Our Destiny
I think the first most important question is: What is fear? You may be thinking that this is a general knowledge question. We were taught from a very young age to fear certain things: a hot stove, knives, strangers and things that will bring us into danger. There is a very delicate balance when it comes to rational and irrational fear, and I think we have trouble distinguishing the difference between the two. So, again: What is fear?
I’ve heard it defined in many ways by preachers and motivational speakers. Even the dictionary has its definition of fear and none of them are right or wrong, but there are two acronyms I’ve heard recently that stuck with me.
The first is “False Evidence Appearing Real”.
The enemy is clever enough to know that if he told us something completely outrageous we wouldn’t believe him, and we could spot him from a mile away. So instead of outright lying to us he uses shreds of incomplete truth to form a lie. We see the grain of truth and it gives the lie credibility in our minds, no matter how ridiculous it really is. He gives us the “evidence” or the proof that we’re guilty, condemned or unable.
He uses experiences we’ve had or mistakes we’ve made and he says: Do you remember that time you messed up that relationship? Everything you touch will come to ruin, no one will want to be your friend or spouse. Do you remember that time you cheated? There’s no grace for that; you’re a dirty rotten cheater! Do you remember that time you (insert bad memory here)? He’ll come at you from a million directions with proof that you’ll never achieve everything that God put in your heart.
The second is “False Expectations Appearing Real”.
Expectation is an interesting word. Expectation is the anticipation of something happening; a confident believe or strong hope that a particular event will happen. Sometimes the enemy doesn’t even have to plant a seed of doubt because we already have. All he has to do is water the seed.
I struggle with this. We create expectations about situations that happen in our lives. We often think, “Well, because this, this and this happened it will surely happen again.” Because so and so betrayed, me I can’t trust anyone. Because I failed at this thing I tried, I’ll fail at everything. We lower the bar for our state of living because we expect that nothing good will ever happen to us. The failures and mistakes in our lives cause us to fear the next step, and so instead of walking in faith, we walk in fear.
We’re afraid of the rejection, failure or the possibility of a repeat offense from people.
[2 Timothy 1:7 For God did not give us a spirit of timidity, but a spirit of power, of love and of self-discipline.]
God gave us a spirit of power to move in this world and be the representatives of God that the world can’t see. You can lose your entire destiny, purpose and calling to fear. The decisions we make will lead us to or away from our destiny, but the choice will always be ours to make. Irrational fears of rejection, failure or offense will lead us far away from our destiny. You weren’t created to live on the fence, make your decisions knowing that God will guide you and direct your steps as long as you’re seeking after Him and His perfect will.
[Isaiah 41:10 So do not fear, for I am with you; do not be dismayed, for I am your God. I will strengthen you and help you; I will uphold you with my righteous right hand.]