The Sea of Lost Dreams
When you ask a child what they want to be when they grow up they often say they want to be something that’s exciting or glamorous like a Fireman or the lead guitarist in a band, maybe a ballet dancer or something similar. Whatever they tell you, it’s what they can see themselves becoming…their dream. As a parent is far too easy to say “that’s great you can be whatever you want to be in life” and not believe that for your own life.
We live a life of necessity because the life that we once dreamed of was shelved over circumstances and our children will one day realize that mom or dad didn’t follow their dream and start to question whether or not they can really follow theirs.
That’s exactly what happened to me when I was 23 years old. I was selling funeral services, door to door, but I was constantly listening to Tony Robbins, Zig Ziglar and many other motivational and inspirational speakers. One day I realized that is who I wanted to be, an inspirational speaker… a person who, with words, could help people get through their next challenge or give them hope for days, months or years to come. But I was “only 23” I told myself so who’ll listen to you? And my friends reassured my insecurity. You’re too young echoed through my head and I convinced myself that I would chase my dream after I was a little older and had a little more experience.
Plus I had a family to take care of and one day blended into the next and my dream seemed to gain some distance from becoming a reality. Then I went into insurance sales and soon my son born and now I had even more responsibility to pursue my career and keep my dream shelved. By that time I had gotten into a habit of a career and I was very good at selling so again my dream remained unopened.
As with everything in life, seasons change and my opportunities with the company I was selling insurance for came to an abrupt end. That was an opportunity for me to launch my dream but by that point it had gathered so much dust after being shelved for so long that it was far too easy to overlook. It was almost unrecognizable as a dream; it had become more like a comfortable “someday I’ll do that”.
I’ve stuck with selling insurance for eighteen years of which the last eight of them my passion for doing it was long gone and I watched my business dwindle to near non-existence and then asked myself why. At the beginning of this year I took my dream off the shelf, dusted it off and gave it a long, hard look. It occurred to me that this wasn’t just my dream; it was also the example to my children that dreams do matter. I’ve watched my eighteen year old daughter struggling with her dream of being a recorded musician; what became clear to me could only be divine wisdom; her struggles were from me giving excuses why I never accomplished my dream; the destiny I knew was mine. Oh, I could and often did talk to her about why she had no excuse while at the same time gave plenty of my own…I guess it was easy after having done it for so long.
My children have dreams too and they are watching me to see if what I said about their dreams was really true in what I DO to fulfill my dream. I made a firm decision to make my dream a reality and I believe that was God’s intention for my life all along. I don’t regret the path that my life has taken; I only regret that it has taken this long to listen to God’s nudging on my life to fulfill the plan He had for me all along.
God has a purpose for each one of us. That’s why we each have certain gifts and talents; while others may possess those talents too, ours has uniqueness to them. God gave us those talents and I believe that He gives us the desires in our hearts to use those talents for a purpose. We may not always understand right away but as we explore the dreams that He’s given us over time His plan will become clear and we will be well on the way to fulfilling our dreams and passing the benefits of accomplishing those dreams to our children so that they can know without a doubt that dreams really can come true.
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