One Of The Biggest Mistake Couples Make After The Birth Of A Child
Awe, the birth of a child is the joy of a love-filled relationship and that joy lasts a lifetime… right?
This may be the way it should be but far too often it simply isn’t the way it is. The realities of childrearing can very easily overwhelm unsuspecting couples and the “joy” of a newborn can quickly give way to exhaustion. I don’t know about you, but you can tell when someone hasn’t had enough sleep at our house… talk about punchy! Geez!
A child changes everything about your relationship, it’s that simple.
What used to be easy, becomes more difficult. If you hit the party scene when you were just a couple, a child eats into that possibility, same with vacations, hanging out with friends and even sex!
YES I DID, I Said SEX!
Here’s the mistake we see with so many couples we speak to: they forget to make time for each other because it’s said that we HAVE TO take care of the baby. Of course, you have to take care of your child and that does dominate your time but, it shouldn’t be used to abandon your relationship.
If it is, what typically happens is the woman will to “busy” taking care of the child, unknowingly pushing her husband away. And, in mild situations, they may start to complain about their spouse to a friend or a relative and in more desperate cases, it’s not uncommon to see infidelity.
Here’s the reality your Pastor and Priest and for that matter your husband aren’t going to tell you. Married men require intimacy and yes, that means SEX too! If you cut off sex, you are severing a major artery of your relationship, leaving it open to infection. We live in a seductive world and even the most devoted man can be tempted by it, so ladies, make sure your man keeps his eyes where they belong… on YOU!
MEN, that leaves you. As men, we must be more reasonable with our wives. I’m sure that your sick of being reminded that they are the ones who pushed “your” kid out and how it made her feel unattractive in some way or another. THAT’S A CLUE!
If she feels ugly, make her feel beautiful. If she’s tired, even if you are too, take your child off her hands for a bit to let her get some much needed rest! Look, women don’t think like us and they never will. The trick is to learn to read their emotions and find ways to help them deal with them. In most cases, that means shut up, nod your head and JUST LISTEN!
Your happiness, your marriage and your family depend on you to be successful with your relationship. So, do yourself a favor, recognize reality, and learn from other people who’ve been there and done that so you can avoid some of the mistake the rest of us had to figure out for ourselves!