The Last Three Words – A Tribute To My Mom
Let me start by telling you a story; it was eleven o’clock at night on New Year’s Eve in the little town of Humble, Texas when the phone rings, the caller ID popped up “Mom” but because I was asleep I missed answering the call; however, because it was my mom I called her back right then.
I was a little surprised that she’d called just to talk and not because of some crisis (my dad has been in and out of the hospital lately so it was easy to assume it could be something wrong). We talked about trivial things for a few minutes and then the conversation turned to more particular matters; she told me how she’d read some of my daughter’s posts and how they’d affected her in a positive way. She went on to tell me how proud of my daughter she was and how wise she was for being just eighteen. She went on to tell me how proud of me she was, which made me feel awkward really because I still haven’t figured out what to say to that other than “thank you” which seems like such a lame response.
Just before we hung up she told me with the sincerest voice I ever recall her having “I love you, son” and I replied “I love you too, mom”. Little did I know then that just over 24 hours later those would be the very last words I’d ever get to say to my mom. I can’t help but think would if I had just let the phone go to voicemail as I often did when my mom called me just because I was busy; but God knew and He made sure that I got to say one last goodbye.
I guess what I’m trying to say is that no matter how difficult some people in our lives may be; God knows I haven’t always been on the best of terms with my family; it is just good practice to make sure that the last words we always say to each other is “I love you” because like my mom we just never know when those will be the very last words we say to them.
I loved my mom so much and although we had so many relationship challenges when I was growing up and since. In the last several weeks God gave her just enough clarity so that we could reconnect and have just a few final happy memories together that I will be able to carry with me until my last day.
My encouragement to you today is to find a way to tell them you love them; no matter how strained your relationship is with them find them and tell them you love them.
One regret that I wouldn’t wish on my worst enemy is for their last words to a loved one to be anything other than something that reflects the love they have for them and I wouldn’t want that for you either.
Mom, I know I already told you this but I want to tell you again “I Love You”. Thank you for being my mom; save a place for me in heaven because I don’t intent to arrive there for a very long time but when I do finally get there I’ll give you the hug and kiss I would’ve given you when you came down this spring. I want you to know that these last few weeks have been special to me and I’ll never forget our talks.
In Loving Memory of my Mom Kate Card
April 18, 1950 to January 3, 2012