The Secret Of What Men Really Want From Their Wives!
I don’t think it is.
In fact, I’m about to go against the man code and reveal one of the deepest secrets of the male psyche. And, for doing so, I’ll likely be banned from the men’s club for life; that is if they ever figure out who this whistleblower is. The secret is the most valuable piece of relationship information that women could ever possess; and it could change the face of relationships forever, and give women near total control over their man.
I bet you’re salivating at this point, aren’t you?
But it’s true, I’m about to tell you the most intimate desire of your man that will have him going out of his way to make you happy…. AND, it has nothing to do with SEX!
Although, if you’re married, sex is an extremely important piece of the marital experience but absolutely not its entirety. We men aren’t driven by mere animalistic instincts for reproduction, even though society and Hollywood project it that way; God made us to be much more than that.
But there is one thing that you can do, that will make your marriage or your relationship soar with the eagle’s.
WARNING: If you have problems with wielding such power, leave this page now! For your own sake, don’t read on if you’re a control freak, weak-minded or a manipulator, because this power is far too great for you to handle.
What I’m about to tell you will have lifelong implications and has the potential to make you and your man happy. Not just for a minute or two, but the, “from now until you die” kind of happiness.
Are you ready for the truth?
A man needs to know that you’re proud of him! It’s a desire that was implanted in him as a child that was fulfilled by his mother. Now, it’s you who wields the power to fulfill that deep seeded need to know that the woman in his life approves of him.
By letting him know that you’re proud of him for providing for your family, or for being a good father to your children or even something stupid to you like… he keeps the car running. Whatever it is, is irrelevant; what is important is him hearing you say: “Honey, I’m proud of you”.
Because men need a women’s admiration; they place value on your opinion of them and if all they hear is how much they don’t do or how disappointed you are with them, even just most of the time; unknowingly, you’re devaluing them as a man and as a husband.
Men have a responsibility to be the spiritual leader of the home and every leader wants to be valued and respected. By telling them you’re proud of them, shows that you respect them as that leader and it allows them to hold their head up high, puff their chest out just a little (in my case, trying to make it bigger than the tire I carry around my waist), and deal with all the challenges the world has to dish out.
In my marriage, the one thing I can always count on, is my wife honors me with her admiration; she reminds me regularly that she’s proud of me, how handsome I am (to her at least) and of course how much she’s deeply, deeply in love with me. She makes me feel like I’m the most important man in her world and I love her for it!
And she hasn’t done it when only when things are good in our lives, but when our lives spun out of control. In the midst of our darkest point, when I had lost a significant income, my ability to provide for my family. She reminded me that she hadn’t given up on me.
When we were facing bankruptcy, the IRS had informed me that I owed them $36,000 in back taxes and penalties, at the same time, we were under threat of losing our home and everything we’d worked so hard to accumulate. But, I’ll never forget her words to me: “Even if we have to live on the street, as long as we’re together, that’s all that matters to me”.
And I believe God honored her commitment to me and to our marriage in that moment. Because, the day before our 1st settlement payment was due; we didn’t have the money to pay and no obvious way to come up with that money either. But, at what I believe to be God’s prompting, I checked the mail box; a task I had come to hate because it was never good news, only bills! But, in the mail that day was a check from the IRS that covered the exact amount of our first settlement payment. The very same agency that had said we owed them $36,000 was now sending me money! Crazy right?
Laugh, decry it nonsense or whatever else you’d call it, but I know it was directed by God and delivered right on time. My God is bigger than even the mighty IRS!
Since then, my wife got a job she wasn’t qualified for on paper, has been promoted four times in four years to another position that she wasn’t qualified for on paper; which she was sought out for by her predecessor and even beat out other, more paper qualified candidates!
And I believe it was because God saw her as a woman of honor and has shown us both how much He loves us by always taking care of our needs!
Only good can come from giving praise and respect to your husband or the man in your life. It gives you the ability to weather the storms of life and of marriage! Plus, if you do, I’m certain that he’ll move heaven and earth to make you happy; I know I do for Marianne. More importantly, I believe God honors a wife who honors her husband.
Men aren’t off the hook though, and I’ll explain the secret to a woman’s heart next week, so stay tuned!