WHEN YOUR DESTINY TAKES YOU OFF-ROADING
I have to be honest with you, for the longest time I thought I knew where destiny was taking me. I’ve always had this dream of being a popular speaker and writer; and who knows I may still arrive at that destination somewhere in the future, but right now my destiny has taken a hard right and we’re off-roading.
With the birth of our son, John-Michael, who’s been diagnosed with Down syndrome, we’ve found ourselves going places we’d likely never have gone to, connecting with people we’d likely never met. And we’ve officially been inducted into a family of other special people that no parent would willingly join, but when you’re born into this family, you’re thankful.
This weekend, a family with a son who has also been diagnosed, allowed us into their lives to share their experiences and give us some advice, but most important, they allowed us to meet their amazing son, Landon; an energetic three year old who clearly loves his life. I won’t disclose the details of that day for purely selfish reasons, I want to keep those memories as a treasure for myself. However, this little boy allowed us a rare opportunity to peer into the future and see our son for who he can be. Not disabled, not special needs, certainly not lacking in the: “I’m a boy and I want to have fun” department, he’s just a boy who’s not typical. But really, isn’t not being typical deep down inside what we really want?
I mean seriously, who wants to be typical, don’t we all want, in some way, to be unique?
Well, for Landon, and I can now imagine for John-Michael, they don’t and won’t have to try to be unique, they were born that way!
And, without any reservation, I can honestly tell you that before I met this amazing boy, my Faith was in constant battle with my fear; today all I have is hope and it’s because God put Landon and his family in our path.
Yes, I feel like my destiny has been detoured but if it hadn’t I’d be the same person I was just a couple of months ago and because we’ve been taken off-road, I have a new perspective about parenting, about friends, about what it means to be part of a family beyond blood related.
For now, my destiny isn’t as a profound speaker or a distinctive author, but the father of a beautiful boy who needs me to be the best father a boy could have. I wouldn’t wish a child with special situations on any parent, but since there have to be some born into this world, I’m glad God chose me to be John-Michael’s dad.
I’d like to personally thank the Forsythe family for their willingness to welcome us into their home, to embrace us with love and to allow us to play with their son, Landon! We love you all!